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Heal Thyself – Power of Mind Over Matter

mindovermatterHealing is a conversation between you and your body, and your mind plays a far greater role than you might realize. The potency of thought in facilitating a return to health and balance, and maintaining it, has been expounded by traditional healing systems since time immemorial. And now even science seems to have arrived at similar conclusions.

A positive mindset, illuminated by upbeat thoughts and ideas, has been shown to have a spectrum of benefits for our mental, physical and emotional wellbeing. Patients are observed to recover faster as well as stay much healthier than those looking down upon their own body and being.

But that is only where these effects and benefits begin; how you think in the face of disease and adversity influences how you and your body respond to it. The key is to remember our body’s innate ability to heal and rebalance itself. Reminding our self of this, even when we may be feeling physically weak or terrible, anchors us in our own healing potential and not in a variety of doomsday scenarios. Consequently we not only change our views of a pending health challenge, we also shift how we experience it. Knowing that your body is working hard to repair itself all the time, instead of feeling victimised by a disease or condition can make all the difference.

The methods of tapping into this power of the mind are many in number and nature- from the conscious to the subconscious, the light to the intense. Each of these works with the mind, rather than against it, tweaking and at tuning its processes and outputs to echo a positive outlook and ideas. Affirmations for instance offer a deceptively simple yet enormously helpful approach; these offer the mind a singular and concrete idea or thought to anchor its energies and focus on. You could on the other hand use meditation or hypnotherapy to dive into the deepest recesses of your mind, weeding out unhealthy and negative thoughts and encouraging a more positive outlook.

Whatever your choice of method and process, it is vital to remember that when engaging the mind to heal the body we are embarking on a holistic process. This isn’t a quick fix pill that once ingested automatically corrects all the defects in our body and being. Self-healing requires patience and active engagement with our own self, learning to read the signs our body sends us and responding to these with love, compassion and determination.

While your mind may be pouring out all the positive thoughts, in truth your entire body and energy field is at work. You cannot thus, for instance, expect for speedy results if you are selectively positive through the day. Healing yourself using the power of the mind requires you to not don a perspective, but wholeheartedly embrace and embody it. it is only when a positive perspective becomes the only perspective you have, that healing using the power of thought becomes a true reality.

Remembering Your Dreams And Improving Your Memory

improve memoryYour dreams help you remember life lessons and past situations because they help you analyze what happened in the past and understand why everything happened the way it did.

The fact that you must pay attention to your dreams in order to remember them when you wake up makes your memory work. The fact that your memory works helps you increase your memory. The more you remember today, more you are able to remember in the future.

You have to write down your dreams or use a voice recorder in order to record them the fastest possible because when your dreams are fresh you remember many details that later you forget, even if you still remember your dreams.

This means that your dreams help you improve your memory only because you have to remember them.

Your dreams help you in many ways because you need help in order to become more intelligent. Your conscience is underdeveloped and you have inherited a huge anti-conscience that has satanic characteristics.

Your intelligence depends on your memory and on your capacity to relate the information you remember. Your memory helps you make conclusions and remember more information in the future through associations with the knowledge you already have.

God produces your dreams in order to help your weak conscience become stronger and gradually eliminate your absurd and evil anti-conscience, so that you may become a true human being, and help Him put an end to terror, poverty, and all the horrors of the world.

The scientific method of dream interpretation proves to the world that science and religion are connected. All mental disorders are generated by Satan, which lives into our primitive anti-conscience. God works like a therapist because we depend on His guidance in order to escape the logical traps prepared by our satanic anti-conscience, which keeps invading our conscience with its absurd thoughts.

The cure for all mental illnesses is based on the elimination of the evilness existent into our wild conscience. This evilness generates absurdity.

God helps you stop being evil with His explanations and lessons in your dreams. You discover the real importance of goodness, and you understand how to behave in order to find sound mental health and peace.

God gives you moral lessons that help you realize what is really important in life, and what you have to do in order to become a perfect human being. This means that you not only remember the past and you have more information about what marked your life; you also have moral lessons that help you transform your life experiences into philosophical conclusions.

Your memory doesn’t merely remember information. You understand the meaning of the information you have in your dreams, and you change your ideas and your behavior thanks to this information.

Therefore, this information helps you solve many different problems.

In order to find solutions for your problems you have to make various combinations. Your memory helps you make these combinations faster, and remember the solutions you were able to find.

Your precious memory is a very important faculty you must develop in order to remember all the details that compose your reality and all the situations of your life.

Gravity and Grace

Gravity + GraceCaught between, and often defined by, a series of polarities, the human journey is quite a ride! Learning to balance out and rein in the opposing forces, we each carve out our own path through our environment, space and time. There is ambition and surrender, strength and flaw, joy and sadness; and then there is gravity and grace.

Our consciousness is always moving between the forces of gravity and grace – one isolating us from the collective into individual identity and experience, the other bonding and uniting us with the Universe at large. Ebbing back and forth between these, we experience and evolve as spiritual beings – by ourselves and collectively.

In contemporary lifestyles, the emphasis has largely remained on one of these two forces – i.e. gravity- with grace itself often being subjected to personal belief or even complete ignorance. The modern life- at home, work and beyond makes little to no place for a connection with Universal consciousness, focusing our energies on individual effort, endeavors and identity. Even when we come together to work or function as a group, we never ever leave our individual identities behind, emerging as a set of individuals rather than a unified collective consciousness.

In light of this nature of our existence and experiences, we suffer the results of a life lived out of balance. This is where spiritual discipline and philosophy steps in, awakening us to and helping us reconnect with the grander matrix of our being. Reminding us of the force of grace, we are once again brought back in touch with its rhythms and gifts, offering a natural movement to counterbalance the oft overzealous ambitions of individuation and gravity.

You see, untamed and unbalanced, our drive for individuality can lead us into a space of selfish actions, thoughts and ideas without care or concern for those around us. The forces of grace therefore play just as vital a role in refining our individual presence, as it does in connecting us to the grander and the ethereal. The same applies for the vice versa as well, with the counterforce of gravity helping us apply the wisdom and light grace bestows upon us in our everyday life and activities- no matter how small or mundane.

So how do we ensure our life treads the delicate balance between gravity and grace? The first step is simply awareness. Understanding a healthy and productive life as a balance between these two movements, rather than being carried away by either one of them, allows us to be mindful of our choices, actions, thoughts and ideas, and their impact on this balance.

Instead of being caught up in the promises of just gravity or grace, we learn to span the vast divide between them- we learn to think without ever having to stop feeling, and we learn to feel without having to switch our minds off; we learn about personal will and its strength even in the throes of surrender, and we learn to surrender as an expression of personal will and strength. Such is the magic of gravity and grace.

Personal Development – Essential Elements That Lead to Effectiveness

development_photoWhat is personal development?

Personal development is a discipline that was once regarded by many as something that happens by itself. Whilst physical growth is an inevitability, personal growth and development is a decision and that decision rests on none other than yourself. There are various areas in life you must take charge of. Aspects of your life such as spiritual growth, career development, business, relationships, physical fitness and your life purpose all require urgent attention and action. However, you cannot act on what you don’t know. You need be to be equipped in order to discover and grow your potential.

At what level of personal development are you?

It doesn’t matter whether you are on autopilot just breathing in and breathing out, doing your best and hoping for the best. You could be one of those folks that once read something and was inspired to come up higher but the challenges of life caused to backtrack and back slide. You lost income, dropped out of school, lost motivation or simply gave up dreaming. It is possible that you are one of the privileged few who are already on the path to personal development. I say well done to you, keep on becoming better. You may have had the intention to start developing a skill or reading good books. Be honest and write down your current position in terms of development.

Why should you embark on personal development?

Personal development is not an option or an alternative, it is the a must if you are going to achieve uncommon success. If you are not developing you are not growing, if you are not growing then you cannot fulfil personal greatness. You have a lot of potential that may go undiscovered yet it stands to benefit others. I am giving you no choice but to develop yourself. Your best life yet is in store for you my friend. Today can be a new beginning.

How do you develop yourself as a person?

Developing yourself starts with being unhappy with the way things are. If you don’t like what is happening in your life you can always change and change starts with a decision to be someone you have never been before. Start where you are right now! You cannot solve your problem if you are still where you were when you created the problem in the first place. You need to grab a Word of God, get in prayer, find a coach, mentor, read a book or something that will encourage you to move forward.

When should you develop yourself?

You do not have to wait for next year. Anytime you make a decision that you no longer want what you have always been getting, you are ready to start. When you get sick and tired of being sick and tired and you say there must be a better life in store for me.

Who is responsible for developing you?

You are responsible for your own personal development. Take control of the areas that are lagging behind and begin to work on yourself. Nobody else can do it for you. You need to take control of your destiny.

What are the essential elements of personal development?

1. Clarify your values

You need to clarify your values because they are the cornerstones upon which your life is built. These are non-negotiable guiding principles that will steer you in the right direction. Clarified values are the backbone of sustained success. They keep you solid and grounded regardless of which way the wind blows. Values simplify life because you have made up your mind as to who you are and from then onward you are simply maintaining them. You need to determine what your values are in terms of your spiritual life, family, intellectual life, wellness, fitness, personal wealth, business and your career.

2. Know your purpose

Knowing your purpose has to do with answering the question, ” WHY AM I”?

Purpose causes you to do what you were born to do and stops you from abusing yourself and others because you will “use” your life properly. Imagine a piece of machinery, vehicle or equipment in the hands of someone who has never read the manual. Chances are high that the equipment will be damaged beyond repair. Life is fragile compared to machines that can easily be replaced or repaired. The uniqueness of one’s purpose means that only you can do what you were born to do, for example, Moses, David, Solomon, Joseph and our Lord Jesus. Purpose arms you with a mission in life. Jesus answered His mother, “I must be about my Father’s business when she was looking for Him. Purpose will inspire you, give you confidence and gives you something to become. What are you becoming?

3. Have a vision for your life

Your vision is what you sometimes refer to as the dream you have for your life

It is that great thing you see accomplishing in your future. When you look at where you are right now the vision may seem too far-fetched but develop one anyway. Your vision might not make sense if you look at the current resources you have. You might actually be in a situation of serious lack but you carry a vision of an abundant, overflowing life. It has something to do with putting your natural endowments, gifts to good use to help others. Treasure that vision because it will help many people.

4. Determine your mission.

Your mission has to do with breaking down your vision into tangible things you can do to accomplish the vision. It is specific compared to a vision because a vision is a broad outlook that you aim towards in the long – term whereas your mission is your plan or object of achievement. It is the goal that you are moving towards in your daily life.

5. Write your plan and act on it.

Do you have a plan? You cannot succeed without it written and commitment to act on it. What is written will most certainly get done. If you are going to be roaming the streets of your ghetto you don’t need a map but if you are going to conquer new territories and be a world – class player you need to seriously and arduously plan for success. What do you need to achieve this year, this month, this week, today? Take Action consistently in order to achieve your goals. Write down lessons learned, what has worked and what has not. . It will save you a lot of time and money in the future if you learn from today’s mistakes.

The information I have shared with you can transform your life. When your life is transformed you will be able to have the things money can buy and the things money cannot buy.

Closing Remarks

We have discussed the essential elements of personal development and the fact that you must know your purpose, vision, mission, values and the fact that you must have a plan. Having said that you must be willing to do what is required,open to possibilities, and never give up. You have it in you to do great things, that’s why you are not satisfied with the way things are. Go ahead and make your life count for something for the glory of God.

Where There’s No Change, There’s No Growth

CHANGE & GROWTH“He who rejects change is the architect of decay. The only human institution which rejects change is the cemetery.” ~ Harold Wilson

When change is recommended, it is often met with opposition. People tend to fear change. They often believe that if you’ve been doing something a certain way for an extended amount of time, it is the best way to do things. Some believe that longevity is equal to goodness. Inevitably, change isn’t just about embracing the unknown, but it is also about giving up something familiar.

Although fear of the unknown is probably the number one reason why people resist change, there are several other reasons as well. Below is a list of possible other reasons why people resist change.

  1. Connected to the old way. Whether it is personal or professional, people are connected to the old way of doing things. There’s an emotional connection to the way things have always been done.
  2. Changes to routines. There’s a correlation between comfort zone and routine. People feel secure in their comfort zone; anything outside of that will lead to resistance because it requires that things be done differently.

3. Loss of control. Change can make people feel like they have lost control. When change is a result of someone else’s decision, people tend to feel like they have lost their sense of self-determination, which results in feeling like there’s a loss of control.

4. Concerns about competence. Often times, in the workplace, people resist change because they are afraid of whether or not they can do a good job with the new changes. As long as they are doing things the way they have always done them, they will be seen as the expert, but when faced when doing something new, they fear they may appear lacking in competency.

5. Doubt Themselves. When people are contemplating making a life change, doubt creeps in. They begin to doubt their ability to manage or handle the change. Feelings of doubt make things appear to be a bit overwhelming.

6. Fear of Failure. Fear of failure is common. It’s human nature to think of all the things that could go wrong before thinking of all the things that could right. People are always taught that failure is a bad thing. The fear of failure can be so strong that they choose to not take risks, to not try something new.

7. Fear of Pain or Discomfort. No one wants to feel pain or discomfort. It’s not irrational to try to avoid those feelings. Change may come with some pain and discomfort, but growth doesn’t happen when things remain the same.

8. Fear of Success. Success comes with a certain level of pressure, attention, and possibly even some baggage. Success tends to cause change in the individual, and some people fear that change.

Dirty, Little Four-Letter “F” Word

fearI recently opened a fortune cookie that said, ‘Fear is the darkroom where negatives are developed.’

Sure, it’s not necessarily a ‘fortune’ per se – neither was the one that read, ‘It will be sunny.’ – but what it lacked in soothsaying it more than made up for in inspiration and cause for pause.

Because once upon a time, we had dreams. Big, impossibly lofty dreams, of transspecies morphing (see: bald eagle), of transobject morphing (see: firetruck), of transatmospheric pioneering (see: astronaut). And small, unimaginably humble dreams, like my grandfather’s dream to have a can of tuna to himself.

Born the 13th child to an impoverished family in a small Cuban town, my grandfather quit school in the 4th grade to work in construction with his father and brothers to help support his family – and a can of tuna, something so small and seemingly single-serving, was, in fact, a communal family protein.

But he dreamed. And a small dream of a can of tuna became a big dream, an American Dream.

With a young wife and two young sons, he left the only life he had ever known – a life now rife with the impending onslaught of a suffocating and merciless dictatorship – with nothing but change in his pocket and legendary chutzpah in his guts – defying the naysayers, the pessimists, the Communists and all of his friends and family who advised him otherwise.

He had a 3rd grade education. He didn’t speak the language. He knew no one. And he came alone.

But he succeeded.

Read that again. ‘But he succeeded.’

And still, even knowing how his story would end, as a family, we’ve marvelled in what would have surely been paralyzing fear in a lesser man; we’ve wondered if we could’ve done the same.

“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.”

Oof. That one hits just a little too close to the mark for comfort.

So our impossibly lofty dreams, and even some of the smaller dreams, fall to the wayside as fear takes up residence where optimism once resided. And we let fear live rent free; fear is the emotional squatter that eats all our courage and never replaces it, no matter how many times it promises us that it will.

But where does the fear manifest? Why were we once able to live so intrepidly and now, are suffocated by the intrusive thoughts of ‘What If?’

Biologically speaking, fear is a vital response to physical and emotional danger – focused on a specific object – and serves to alert and protect us from legitimate threats. But too often we trip the fear wire in situations far from life-or-death, so often awakening the fear beast or its equally disturbing cousin, anxiety – the unpleasant feeling that teems with apprehension, dread and distress.

‘Oh welcome, fear and anxiety. So nice to see you,’ said no one ever.

That report you flubbed at work? That presentation you forgot to prep? That birthday you forgot? Those are one-way tickets to the sleepy little town of Fearful Falls, where hope is lost and peace of mind is found only in fairytales.

And is it worth it – really?

Because if history is any indication, the common denominator of success and happiness is painfully simple – it’s your fuel of purpose.

If life is fueled by a purpose of fear, it will always create more fear. Fear begets fears; negativity begets negativity.

But a life instead fueled by a purpose of passion will always create more passion. Passion begets passion; positivity begets positivity.

See the pattern here?

So in those dark times where fear lurks ever menacingly around the corner, those times when anxiety threatens to keep you awake at night with worry, question your fuel – but never your purpose. Fear, ever manipulative and insidious, will lie to you. But if you know your truth and your purpose, question only your fuel. Because the right fuel will yield success and more importantly, it will yield happiness.

So flub that report. Bomb the presentation. Forget ALL the birthdays. Expect failure. Accept failure. It happens. All. The. Time. Then… own it, learn it and – this is where it gets real tricky – dare to fail. Again.

Just don’t quit your daydreams.

Fall in Love With Your LIFE Again

Love-Heart-e1402917500699Fall in Love with Your LIFE Again

Our lives are filled with lots of repetition and routine. It’s common for many of us feel numb and bored from time to time.

Perhaps you have asked yourself questions like these:

Why has there been little change in my life over the past weeks or months? Why is it that I’m no longer excited by my relationship? Or, why to I now dread my child’s birth when only a year ago I yearned for his/her arrival?

Somewhere along the way we came to believe that happiness was a place we were destined and entitled to arrive. We also came to believe that happiness came with having everything we want. These mistaken beliefs can really mislead us. If we aren’t feeling happy or we’re not getting what we want, we tend to feel like something is wrong. But, nothing is wrong with your life and nothing is wrong with you.

To really access the marrow of life we need to learn some skills that help take our focus away from what we don’t have or should have and instead connect us with what is. Here are three things you can do today to shift your thinking and to love the life you have before you.

Look for what’s amazing in your everyday life.

  • Most of us have unconscious expectations about how our life should be. At the very least, we all have hopes that our lives will turn out in a particular way. When you’re preoccupied with comparing what you have against what you think you should have, you’re not able to appreciate what you have for what it is. One of the easiest ways to figure out if your expectations are keeping you from being satisfied with your life is to pay attention to your habits. Do you crave a sugary snack in the afternoon? Are you dissatisfied with your relationships after the initial honeymoon period? Do you start getting bored with work after the initial newness wears off? While there can be many reasons these habits develop, one of them is a lack of ability to see what’s amazing in your day-to-day. If you’re in the habit of waiting for something amazing to happen to you, challenge yourself to find what’s wonderful in what’s around you.

Find something to be grateful for.

  • One of the fastest ways to fall in love with your life is to look for things for which you’re grateful. Take time to celebrate these aspects of your life. We’re the meaning makers of our life. If we don’t create the meaning, appreciate the little thing, or feel gratitude for what is, then regardless of how good it really gets nothing is going to feel that special.
  • So, how do you get started? It’s actually fairly simple. Take a moment during breakfast or dinner to turn to a loved one or friend and tell them one thing you’re grateful for/ excited about/ intrigued by from your day. Or, you can keep a gratitude journal where you write down three things that happened during the day that you thought were special. Another approach is to tell one person per week how grateful you are for them or something they’ve done. The great thing here is that when you express your gratitude, you feel good and those around you feel appreciated and noticed. It’s a win for all involved.

Try to be intentional.

  • It takes intention to approach your day-to-day life from a place of gratitude. While this mind-set can take a little bit of practice, more often than not it really just requires that we be aware of what we want. When we’re feeling bored or checked out, that’s our reminder to check back in with our intention.
  • Here are some tips to move through your day with intention. When you wake up each morning, think about how you would like to go through the day. How would you like to feel as you move through it? If there’s an aspect of your day that you anticipate will be challenging, see if you can come up with a way to go through it that’s ideal for you.
  • As you go forward, you can build on and develop these skills so that you can add more enjoyment to your life. But, don’t worry if you have some days where you feel flat. It’s normal. Remember that you can always wake up tomorrow and ask yourself, “what would I like today to be like?

“Go forth and set the world on fire.” – St. Ignatius Loyola

If the words above ignite your spirit – read on.

If your life goals were simply to be rich and famous, you would pursue the schooling, social circles and environments that would help you achieve this. Yet, what if your life goals are bigger than this? Where do you go to study and practice the consciousness skills that will help you bring compassion and healing to yourself and others?

I’ve created LifeWork Community to be that place. This 10 month program provides the tools, structure and support needed to make your dreams real! It’s a place of true freedom. A place where you can be seen and celebrated. A place where you can go deep within and explore yourself with the support of a like-minded community of people. In LifeWork Community, you’ll experience a new way to live, work and breathe with others on the planet.

Failed or Falling Down?

Failed or fallWhat do babies do when they’re learning to walk?

I have a nephew named Isaac. He’s just turned one and yes, he’s learning to walk.

He walks, takes a few tentative steps, swaying like a drunk.. loses his balance then falls down.

Now here’s my other nephew Wellbeck. He’s 11 months old and yes, also learning to walk.

Same thing.. He walks forward a little bit, taking tentative steps with hands outstretched for balance, walking like a zombie.. But then, even with all his efforts at balancing, he loses control and falls down with a thud.

Oh, and yes, they both cry their hearts out every time that happens.. Which is a lot of times.

You know how babies are.

So what happens to babies when they’re just learning to walk? Yes, you’re right. They keep falling down.

To us, it’s just normal. Part of the learning curve that soon they’ll outgrow.

To them, it probably feels like they’ve failed. They’re hurt, tired, and frustrated.. And they cry a lot.

Oftentimes, it looks like they never want to try again.

But what do they do when they fall down? Right again.. They get up! Again and again and again.

No matter how many times they fall, they just keep getting up.

Yes, they may cry a lot..but they keep trying again and again. Until they get the hang of it and just walk.

Of course, it helps that their mommies and all their elders are there cheering them on, encouraging them to get up, not be afraid and try again.

Now both of my nephews are walking on their own a little better and they’re on their feet much longer.

They just love walking, going everywhere they can go.

It’s getting to be a real challenge keeping up with them

Can we learn anything from these babies? O yes, we can.

When you’re doing and learning something new.. The learning curve may just be really hard.

Just like these babies..You fail and fall down.. You feel frustrated.. You cry.. You want to give up.

But just like these babies.. You need to get up, keep trying. Again and again

Soon, just like these babies, You’ll get the hang of what you’re learning.

Soon you’ll be the best at it. Just keep on doing it. Until.

So when it feels like all your efforts are in vain and for nothing.. When it feels like you’ve failed..

Health Wealth Victory Tips:

Learn from babies.. you haven’t failed. You’re just falling down.

So get up..stand on your feet..and try again.

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