How To Know Whether You’re Making The Right Decision
So if you’re thinking you’re the only one who has a hard time making decisions, think again.
Making certain decisions is difficult at best. And the potential consequences associated with the wrong decision could be huge.
The types of decision women struggle with include:
1. Do I truly want to have children or is it just expected of me?
2. Should I speak up about the discrimination I face at work?
3. Am I with the right partner?
4. Which treatment path will yield the best result for my illness?
5. Do I really want to curb my money habits?
The problem with making difficult decisions is that it requires you to play around with unknown variables. And whenever unknowns are involved assumptions will be necessary and outcomes will be unpredictable.
The problem is that:
1. Uncertainty is everywhere, and
2. No difficult decision will ever be easy to make.
As such, you have to look for ways to “outsmart” difficult decision-making.
Since you can’t force life to offer you certainty, you have to change how you approach decision-making. Instead of asking whether you’re making the right decision, you’ll have to ask yourself the following:
Will I be able to live with my decision?
After a decision is made and acted on, the only thing left is to live with the consequence – good or bad.
To help you figure out the answer to the above question, consider the following:
1. If the worst case scenario comes out of my decision, will I be able to recover?
2. Will I persist if this decision doesn’t work out? (if you’re not willing to persist after the first defeat, you ought to think about whether this is truly worth it)
3. Am I too concerned about what other people think? And how would my decision change if I wasn’t worried about what others will think of me?
If you still find yourself wavering, then do some soul-searching to see how your decision will match other points in your life. Ask yourself:
1. Does my decision align with my values so that I don’t have to feel guilty or like I am letting myself down?
2. Is my decision based on my focus to escape from a nasty situation or on my focus to move towards a healthy goal? (when you focus on escaping you are more likely to be impulsive; when you focus on a goal your decision is based on careful thought)
3. Does this decision have the potential to lead me to my ultimate goal or could this be more of a reaction point? If this is not going to lead you to your overall goal, is it worth you energy?
All of these self-reflective enquiries are connected to the question “Will I be able to live with my decision?”
It’s impossible to know whether or not you are making the correct decision. The only thing you have to be sure of is that you will be able to move pas the consequences and try again. This is the only certainty that you need.