Confidence Comes From Overcoming Fears
Everyone has certain strengths and certain weaknesses. Invariably, strengths arise from self confidence, and a willingness to reach beyond one’s comfort zones, while weaknesses come from succumbing to one’s fears, and permitting those fears to rule one’s life. The ability to overcome our fears creates self confidence, and permits us to optimize our potential. Peter T. McIntyre stated it this way, “Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.”
1. Even the brightest, most talented, most experienced and expert individual is not right all the time. Making mistakes, errors in judgment, miscalculations, misinterpretations, etc. is part of human nature. However, what differentiates someone who is confident from the rest of the pack is that he overcomes his fears, and stops being afraid to be wrong. Most of the major mistakes ever made were not caused by someone who took action, but rather by someone unwilling, unable or afraid to do so. The single biggest challenge that there is to being confident is when we insist on procrastinating. Those that do so often do not even realize that they are doing so, and will supply a bevvy of reasons as to why delay is the prudent course of action. It is important to understand that there is a major difference, however, between prudent delay, and procrastination. A prudent delay is putting off action, on a very short term basis, while gathering more facts and more information, in order to be able to make an intelligent and well considered decision. Procrastination, on the other hand, is when our focus is on the delay and ways to extend the delay, so as to avoid taking action, whether this be a conscious or an unconscious action/ reaction.
2. Often, individuals fear the ramifications of their actions. In reaction to this, they use methods of procrastination in order to delay doing anything that might cause them to be responsible. So many people are afraid of being blamed or doing the wrong thing/ making a wrong decision, that they simply avoid doing so. Greatness comes from bold action, and individuals who wish to be optimally confident gain knowledge and expertise to provide them with the tools and confidence to be superb decision makers.
When we overcome our inherent fears, we become stronger, more well- rounded, and far more confident human beings. We must first be willing to face those fears directly, and, although doing all we can to hopefully be right, stop being afraid of potentially being wrong.
With over 30 years consultative sales, marketing, training, managerial, and operations experience, Richard Brody has trained sales and marketing people in numerous industries, given hundreds of seminars, appeared as company spokesperson on over 200 radio and television programs. He’s negotiated, arranged and organized hundreds of events.
By Richard Brody
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