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Archive for the month “June, 2012”



Have you ever had one of those days where the dust of today just doesn’t seem to clear for tomorrow and where the emotional forecast is calling for more whirlwinds of irrational thoughts, perhaps mixed with some stress and/or anxiety, and bouts of crying, questioning, doubting, or worrying?

You wake up and you are met with a new dawn but the prediction for it doesn’t look much brighter than the day before.

Perhaps you are feeling the pressure and stresses of finances or a relationship, or that life is all work and no play, or you are facing an illness or someone you know is.

Maybe you are feeling at a loss, or that things are out of your control, or you are concerned about the outcome of a situation, or apprehensive about the future.
Just about anything can leave a day feeling pretty dismal and gloomy. You might feel that even though the sun is shining ou

tside you seem to be under a dark cloud inside.
Well, good news. You can anticipate a cleaning!
The greatest outcomes of the challenges you face are the possibilities.

A possibility to…
Grow and learn something new about yourself or someone else.
Start with a fresh mind-set.
Leave yesterday(s) behind and see today as a new day.
See the promise that this day could hold.
Enjoy today the best you can.
Adjust your attitude.
Begin again.
Put things back in perspective.
Ask for help and receive it.
Listen for guidance and hear it this time.
Make amends.
Gain insights.

For some, it can be days, and sometimes, even years before they feel like there is a new dawn, a new day, and that they can move forward again.
For others, they feel overcome by the resentments, pain, or unfairness of it all. Even though there is a new day there isn’t a new way. It is possible though.
Yes, in the present day the past may hang around a lot longer than you would like and you may not be able to let it go “at this point in time”.
At this point says, “Right now this is how things are, but they can change”.
I don’t believe it’s so much about letting yesterday(s) go as it is about learning about and from them.
Each time you discover something about yourself is like a star shining in the midnight’s sky. It may seem far away but it’s there right before your eyes.
Sometimes it can be difficult to get out of our heads and back to what is before us in this very moment. If we choose to accept it as it is and allow it to embrace and grace us, this day is filled with potential!

How do you leave yesterday behind and see today as a new day?
Start off by saying exactly that, “Today is a new day”.
Then you ask, “What did I learn from yesterday and about myself that can help me today?”
You let yourself know that although you may still have thoughts and emotions from yesterday, today is still a new-found day filled with hope.
You look to the moments that are still perfect in the emotional storm you are encountering.
You remind yourself that the skies will clear even though a few clouds may still linger, and that’s perfectly okay.
Even though yesterday may be clouding over today, there are rainbows and sunshine after the emotional thunderstorms. Believe it is so and so it is.
Remember, today is a blessing even though it may be disguised in uncertain skies.
The Insight Technique assists you leaving yesterday behind and that today is a new day filled with new possibilities.

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“More is gained by the mistakes of those who honestly try to think for themselves than by the correct opinions of those who hold them simply because they have not heard the other side.”
~Helen Keller

Relatively few people in this life consistently risk for trying, because of the humiliating price of failure.
Most people figure there’s nothing to be gained through humble humiliation. It is hence studiously avoided. People would rather be situated in the safety of the correctness of their opinions. They would rather appear knowledgeable, and yet, the reality is, they will not learn much and there won’t be much joy added to them.

Failure marks us for embarrassment in the instant of the mistake. But the depths experienced for learning are colossal. Embarrassment verging on humiliation is transformative.

Yet, the shelter in proffering a safe opinion is merely transactional-nothing ventured, nothing gained; no risk, no return.
The very fact that we are bound to learn more in our errors, and by the calculated risks we take, than we are in sprouting our puffed up knowledge should be all the more significant if we are interested in growth.

In theory every Christian is. But in practice the vast majority don’t care for the furnace of spiritual refinement. They would prefer to look good.
Where are we?

Are we the kind of persons that find a purpose in the worst of news? Do we see a silver lining encircling the thunder cloud? Are we able to conjure thought for blessing in the midst of cursing? Can we envisage the learning designed into the mistake? We can nurture such never-say-die curious humility.

The purity in the person genuinely trying is admirable. They put themselves out there; where there’s no immediate self-gain. This person has learned to delight, at least partially, in their mistakes. They have turned their embarrassment into a realistic optimism for what might be gained, eventually.
Of course, it involves faith to risk what we don’t need to risk, as risking is seen as an investment.

Those who risk in faith not only learn more, they inspire others to risk, also. It’s as if they have blazed a trail that others might emulate. They have shown by example that the faith to risk never destroys them. They are seen as courageous, and, more appropriately, fundamentally committed to truth. They earn respect and credibility.

The faith to risk, which involves great courage to lead, is the necessary trait of the would-be leader.
To risk for faith is honourable and worthy of respect, when the safety of a safe opinion might have been prioritised. When we go out on a limb for the truth we inspire people. They want to emulate our courage.

Failure can be an open door to a better style of success: learning, growth and inspiration can be ours, simply for an invitingly curious attitude in the midst of mistakes.


© 2012 S. J. Wickham.


How do we get from where we are to where we want to be? What is our compass? What do we deem to be valuable? What ideas do we choose to act upon?

To navigate successfully through life, we need a good compass. In 1975 Larry Veatch,”…values provide us with a pattern by which we can behave to gain satisfaction.” Values are the basis by which we make decisions that guide our behaviour. If we behave in a manner consistent with our values, we should be satisfied with our efforts. Our value-guided behaviour should lead to accomplishments that are satisfying.

How do we acquire our values? We construct our values over time, based on what we are taught by others, including our parents and teachers, and what we learn from our experiences. We develop over time an understanding of the world and what is important. What we determine to be important becomes our values, which give us direction and guides us in making decisions. Being efficient in achiev

ing contentment depends on our ability to find resources and make decisions consistent with our values.

Values involve the beliefs of an individual or culture and to some degree each individual comes to possess his own ideas about reality expressed through philosophy, a system of values, and the moral standards which guide his behaviour. What is it that we seek; what will, if achieved, give us satisfaction? Values incorporate things that people want and need such as health, clothing, housing, food, sex, love and intimacy. We obtain a sense of accomplishment through work, skills, play, and spiritual activity; activities through which we seek security.

We sometimes need guidance from others as well as from our values. Life coaching assists clients to define core values and make commitments to do the right thing. The choices we make shape our personality. Fulfilment comes through the matching of our actions to our
Our inner world includes the values that determine our thinking and give us direction. Values guide our choices. The strength of our values determines the degree of our motivation and whether or not we act on our choices. values. Personal effectiveness includes being clear about your fundamental values and making choices consistent with them. Your perception of reality helps determine your level of happiness, sense of peace, and enjoyment. Productivity and relationships develop from your values.

Contentment and a fulfilling life are based on good relationships, job satisfaction, and social skills. Contentment comes from making choices and taki


ng action that is consistent with our values. Success is acting effectively in a manner that is consistent with our values that are compatible with the others with whom we live – family, community, and beyond.

To get from where you are to where you want to be, you need a good compass. Take stock of your values and determine if they give you good direction and if they are compatible with the other people in your life. We are who we are to a large extent because of our relations with others. Your values should be compatible, and positive, and motivating you to take productive action. Your behaviour serves you best if it is purposeful and guiding you along your chosen path to contentment. Your values are your compass that helps you navigate through life toward your destination. Enjoy your journey.






Competitions have played a great part in changing the mindset of people over the centuries. At one time, fighters fought in arena to obtain the blessings of Emperor. Now, competition has entered the home arena where it has become essential to think for the best to achieve the best.
Positivity generates an increased flow of blood and energy, making your life the golden globe in hand. You feel achieved for what you deserved. But, you shouldn’t forget the fact that winning is not as important as an attitude to win.
Not a single man is born perfect in this world. We have to toil hard to earn single bread for the family. We dream of earning more in order to meet the financial needs. We feel we can achieve more in case we have all the possibilities in hand. However, this is next to impossible.
What we really possess is the attitude to do our best. We need to excel in order to get what we desired. Our will power can rescue us from falling down while we are performing a world task. We are being provoked several times during the period to give up on things.
However, our confidence is a step ahead in obtaining something we really wished for. We have that utmost faith in ourselves to attain the maximum possible extent. We wish to restore a lot of possible factual details which might help us in future. We are in no mood to compromise. However, we can make sure that a little twist and turn can help us procure what we want.
Apart from will power and confidence, we need a lot of patience. It is very difficult to control temperament when the sun is giving out fire. The mind needs a coolant in the form of peace and calmness which can be retained only through family values. Not responding to negativity during a sudden change of event also makes positivity strong.
There are several difficulties that surround you throughout life. Before dealing with such situations, you need to think. You need to see what led to these circumstances. You need to evaluate the pros and cons. While evaluating, you would come to conclusion that things have taken a turn in your favor. You have taken a track that leads you through the road ahead. It allows you to make the best efforts to turn yourself up in the best manner.
There is lot of chaos prevailing in your mind when you lose the track. Taking your inner conscience into consideration, you are bound to think something. While thinking, you are trying to develop your views bit by bit. During development, you come across feelings which direct you to the righteous path. This path is the most difficult road to cross. If you come across and start moving, you don’t get the chance to come back. When you start taking steps, you are able to see the ray of light which could help you achieve the best.


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Why You Need To Be Ignorant To Be Relevant!

Why You Need To Be Ignorant To Be Relevant!.

Why You Need To Be Ignorant To Be Relevant!

The foregoing heading may sound strange, and maybe your brain is already cracking: “What the heck is he talking about?” So, let me go ahead to make you understand why you need to be ‘ignorant’, if you really want to soar in life. Here is a crucial secret that can bring about the beginning of great exploits and success in your life. Enjoy!
Ignorance, they say, is a deadly ‘disease’. Not a few people and societies frown on it. The Greek philosopher Socrates called it “the only evil”. Be that as it may, there is a kind of ignorance that is good for you – pleasant and profitable. It pays great dividends! Great inventors, discoverers, and people of outstanding achievements have all profited by it. I guess you are curious to know what that is. Please read on with rapt attention.
According to the theory of aerodynamics and as may be readily demonstrated through wind tunnel experiments, the bumblebee is unable to fly. This is because the size, weight and shape of his body in relation to the total wingspread make flying impossible. But the bumblebee, being IGNORANT of these scientific truths, goes ahead and flies away – and makes a little honey everyday.
In the words of Harry K. Jones, “Driven by desire, intelligent ignorance is the characteristic or capability of not knowing what you can’t do, and doing it anyway.” Scientific evidence states that the bumblebee’s body is far too heavy and his wings are far too light. Aerodynamically, it is an impossibility for the bumblebee to fly. However, the bumblebee doesn’t read and therefore does fly! That’s intelligent ignorance. Does that sound oxymoronic?
A person must have a certain amount of intelligent ignorance to get anywhere.
– Charles Kettering
People who made, and those who are still making, the most of their lives couldn’t have accomplished a thing had they been willing to leave things as they were because some “knowledgeable” people said “It is impossible”. If Edison hadn’t been ignorant of the impossibility of inventing the light bulb, if Bell hadn’t been ignorant of transporting sound, If Wilbur and Orville Wright hadn’t been ignorant of the impossibility of having something called ‘Facebook’, the world would not have benefitted from their inventions. The list of “I just did it without knowing it was impossible” appears time and again as a common thread in stories about technology innovation. And virtually in every walk of life, people have done the impossible just because they didn’t know what they were attempting was impossible. We still have intelligently ignorant people around. Are you one?

Intelligently ignorant people focus their minds on a goal and prohibit any distraction or impediment from people who think they cannot achieve what they set out to achieve. They simply ignore their opinions by turning a deaf ear to those who tell them they can’t reach their goals, and then they move on.
Many of us know too much about why we cannot achieve our dreams and goals, courtesy of family, friends and foes: “You’re too young to do that.”, “You don’t have enough experience.”, “You don’t have a degree.”, “You are from a poor background”, “It has never been done before.”, “Only (wo)men do that.” (You can add to the list through the comment box below). But should we allow our dreams to be killed just because they said these? Should we allow them to stifle our creativity, scotch our potential “and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt,” as Shakespeare said about our doubts? Not in the least! We need intelligent ignorance for our brilliance to be of great significance to our world. The amount of this ignorance we possess will determine the level of our relevance wherever we find ourselves. We need to learn to ignore these limiting opinions to soar.
As Pearl S. Buck, the prolific American writer who became the first American woman to win the Nobel Prize for literature in 1938 rightly said: “All things are possible until they are proved impossible – and even the impossible may only be so, as of now.” Don’t let anyone tell you something can’t be done. Anyone can do that. You be the one to show that it can be done. Tell the cynics and critics that you are too focused to know it can’t be done.
One of the traps of age is growing to accept the common wisdom of what’s possible and not. Accumulated experience can at times become an obstacle in thinking creatively. Knowing that “it can’t be done” because you can recount each of the failed attempts in the last 20 years to solve the problem can be a boat anchor on insight and imagination. When you are young, anything seems possible. – Steve Blank
You see, ignorance of the impossible gives you the opportunity to do something even if you do not have the ability in the beginning. It is a propelling force to great achievements. What if Mark Zuckerberg and his partner knew it was impossible to create Facebook? Even though some people might have told them it was impossible, they believed in the possibility of their dreams. In other words, they were ignorant of the impossible, so they worked assiduously and eventually they realized their dreams.
The young do not know enough to be prudent, and therefore they attempt the impossible, and achieve it, generation after generation. – Pearl S. Buck
Wake up friend! Nothing is impossible; there are ways that lead to everything. “If you can believe, all things are possible to him that believes,” says Scriptures (The Bible, Mark 9:23). Believe it that what you desire in life is possible – that is the way to be ignorant of the impossible. Eliminate the word “impossible” from your mind. The fact that someone has tried something, but did not achieve it does not necessary mean it is impossible – yours can be different.
It was said that during World War II, when Henry Kaiser said, “We can construct a Liberty ship every ten days,” experts said. “It can’t be done – it’s impossible! Yet he did it. Kaiser believed it was possible and he built over 1500 ships with such rapidity that he startled the world. Wow! Ignorance of the impossible – what a powerful force!
Hello esteemed reader, I am glad to tell you that the ignorance of the impossible can also work for you. That idea, dream, desire or vision in your heart is possible. The level of success you aspire to achieve in life is possible. Work towards it. “Determine what you want more than anything else in life, (believe it is possible) write down the means by which you intend to attain it and permit nothing to deter you from pursuing it,” said Henry J. Kaiser. Turn a deaf ear to the opinions of people around you that your dreams are impossible – be ignorant of the impossible. Work towards your dreams and you will succeed. Learn to ignore to soar!


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Confidence Comes From Overcoming Fears

Everyone has certain strengths and certain weaknesses. Invariably, strengths arise from self confidence, and a willingness to reach beyond one’s comfort zones, while weaknesses come from succumbing to one’s fears, and permitting those fears to rule one’s life. The ability to overcome our fears creates self confidence, and permits us to optimize our potential. Peter T. McIntyre stated it this way, “Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.”

1. Even the brightest, most talented, most experienced and expert individual is not right all the time. Making mistakes, errors in judgment, miscalculations, misinterpretations, etc. is part of human nature. However, what differentiates someone who is confident from the rest of the pack is that he overcomes his fears, and stops being afraid to be wrong. Most of the major mistakes ever made were not caused by someone who took action, but rather by someone unwilling, unable or afraid to do so. The single biggest challenge that there is to being confident is when we insist on procrastinating. Those that do so often do not even realize that they are doing so, and will supply a bevvy of reasons as to why delay is the prudent course of action. It is important to understand that there is a major difference, however, between prudent delay, and procrastination. A prudent delay is putting off action, on a very short term basis, while gathering more facts and more information, in order to be able to make an intelligent and well considered decision. Procrastination, on the other hand, is when our focus is on the delay and ways to extend the delay, so as to avoid taking action, whether this be a conscious or an unconscious action/ reaction.

2. Often, individuals fear the ramifications of their actions. In reaction to this, they use methods of procrastination in order to delay doing anything that might cause them to be responsible. So many people are afraid of being blamed or doing the wrong thing/ making a wrong decision, that they simply avoid doing so. Greatness comes from bold action, and individuals who wish to be optimally confident gain knowledge and expertise to provide them with the tools and confidence to be superb decision makers.

When we overcome our inherent fears, we become stronger, more well- rounded, and far more confident human beings. We must first be willing to face those fears directly, and, although doing all we can to hopefully be right, stop being afraid of potentially being wrong.

With over 30 years consultative sales, marketing, training, managerial, and operations experience, Richard Brody has trained sales and marketing people in numerous industries, given hundreds of seminars, appeared as company spokesperson on over 200 radio and television programs. He’s negotiated, arranged and organized hundreds of events.

By Richard Brody

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